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Before IVF if a couple could not have children, they just dealt with it. Yes, its a shame, but they could accept the reality of it and deal with it.
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This is possibly the crux of the matter. Not everyone is able to have children. I feel for those that are desperate to be parents and for any of a number of reasons this has not happened for them. You see the joy that IVF and other forms of modern treatment that have helped such ones have children. My aunt and her husband were unable to have children, yet, their lives were not unfulfilled because of this. They were much loved as an aunt and uncle and at different times assumed the role of parents and grandparents as the need within the family arose.
This woman's situation is tragic and whilst at the time of the fertilization of the eggs the intention was to have a family together later they are no longer together. I see many arguable facets to this. That fertilization for later implantation must have been agreed to at the time by all concerned and further down the track the embryos have been denied a right to life because one does not wish it to happen. If a baby had been born during the relationship then you can't stop that process in its tracks as is the case with an embryo and both parents carry a responsibility for the upbringing of that child. People can run around laying blame to one party or the other 'until the cows come home' but I would have thought there was also a responsibility involved in the initial decision to have fertilized eggs put into storage for a later time anyway.
In making a decision I guess the courts have to weigh the facts up in the cold light of day rather than from the emotional perspective and what might be in the interests of all parties involved.
By ruling in favour of the desire of the man they are having a profound effect on the emotional well-being of the woman. Had they ruled in favour of the woman then the man would be in a position whereby he is financially and morally liable towards their child. A situation similar to the end result of a couple that already have children together and the family unit has broken down.
It is easy to look from the outside and cast judgement on a situation but in th same situation I wonder how we personally would feel.