It's not grossly un fair, what he's dome is grossly unfair, he agreed to father a child, and now he's going back on it when she's got no other chance of having a child. If the child had already been born he still wouldn't have had any control. He agreed to, the ebryos are fertilized, and he shouldn't be allowed to back out of it.
If she had some other way of getting pregnant then yes, but she hasn't and he knew that when he accepted. HE ACCEPTED IT AND WANTED IT.
What he's done in my eyes is the same as whats happened to a friend of mine, planned a pregnancy and as soon as she got pregnant did a runner.
You agree to something like that you don't back out. The same principles are used all over the world on many many things, even ebay, you make an agreement, it's legally binding, just because you haven't paid and had it delivered doesn't mean you can back out.
So no in my eyes he's not a poor chap, he's a horrible nasty selfish git who desserves to never have children of his own. It is him stopping her having children, if he says yes, she can have one, because he's said no she can't. What the cancer did was take HER choice away and give it to him.
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